Talking helps. Experts espouse it. Its benefits are well documented. It may not work for everyone, every time, but talking – on some level – really does help. Yet there are some things we still struggle to give voice to. Take sexuality and sexual identity as an example. It’s still a taboo subject. Fraught with stigma, shame, and a whole host of conflicting beliefs.
Talking about something so personal, so intimate is often difficult – even impossible. Confused thoughts fill your mind. You doubt yourself. Your self-esteem plummets. Then guilt raises its ugly head.
And that’s if you’re ‘straight’. If you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, <insert label here>, it can reach whole new levels of complexity. The mere threat of discriminatory retaliation, be it verbal or physical, is enough to scare a person into silence. Making the problem worse.
No matter what position you are currently in however, it is important to keep one thing in mind…
You Are Never Alone
In a video titled ‘Never Alone‘ Welsh rugby legend Gareth Thomas reveals how support from his team-mates helped him deal with his “demons” when it came to revealing his sexuality.
See? Talking helps. But even if you’re not part of a world class sports team, there are people out there you can talk to. Confidentially and safely. People that will provide you with the kind of information and support that is critical to your well-being.
- Speak to your GP
- Speak to a youth worker
- Access Counselling services. (Such as what we offer here at TMT.)
- Access specific LGBT services (see below for helpful links)
No matter your sexual identity or your sexual preferences, if it’s causing you problems, don’t be afraid to talk about them. To a friend, a family member, a professional.
“Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.” – Robert Schuller
Don’t let your problems stop you.
- Broken Rainbow UK – Support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT).
- Queer Youth Network – National LGBT youth organisation in the UK.
- Stonewall – Working for equality and justice for lesbians, gay men and bisexuals.
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This article published in the Guardian newspaper; “Goodbye Katie, Hello Ben” in which a father shares his experience of being a parent to a teenager undergoing a gender identity change.